I've been helplessly stuck on someone, and between us whoever cared less had the most power.
I realized this as I was walking away; relationships shouldn't work like that and mine can't.
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Between the pain of being hurt and the pain of having hurt someone, I now much rather than former than the latter.
In being hurt, you gain the power to make heal yourself in forgiving the other.
Having hurt someone though, you're stuck helplessly in regret.